If the Nuclei and DAS Light could have a love child, I reckon it might be the perfect jacket in the category. Your pros are all right on.
I happen to have both jackets, as well as a trashed older Xenon. I initially purchased the DAS light to replace my Xenon, but had an eye on the Nuclei for awhile and pulled the trigger when I found a good deal.
The DAS light is a great jacket and super comfortable, but the lack of a cinchable hem is a near fatal flaw in my opinion. It's drafty and I feel like the jacket isn't as warm as it could be, particularly when it's windy. Also, despite the ability to stuff it into its own pocket (with clip loop), good freaking luck making that happen; the pocket is simply too small. WTF, Patagonia? It fits like a belay jacket in my standard size and I suspect I could even size down. My girlfriend is actually on the fence between sizes.
The Nuclei has a more technical fit and isn't as comfortable over thicker winter layers. At a belay it doesn't feel as bulky or in the way when dealing with ropes, and better if I'm actually moving. While I've only had it a short time and don't have a fully formed opinion, it's warm. Maybe too warm at times given how it doesn't breathe at all. It's the puffiest and loftiest of the 3, and I feel like the warmest. Why no 2-way zip, Arcteryx???!
The Xenon is a great jacket. It has a boxier fit, sort of in between the others, and isn't as warm. The construction and zipper quality is lower, but it's also a lot cheaper.
All that said, I'm very curious to hear anyone else's opinions. If you can order or try on all 3 at once, I think you'll be able to make a good decision pretty quickly. But really you can't go wrong as they're all great pieces.