Bankart Repair over 40

Hi,
I suffered an anterior dislocation of my right shoulder while indoor bouldering about two months ago. It was a due to multidirectional force while position myself on the wall. I didn't fall. MRI showed a bankart lesion and hill sachs lesion. I had only been climbing for about a year and a half, but I dearly love the sport. I did some PT to improve ROM prior to my scheduled surgery this upcoming Friday.
If I didn't want to continue climbing, the doctor would want me to treat only with PT. That said, my body has some hypermobility and I do have lax joints. The shoulder that dislocated, subluxed one week after the incident while brushing my hair.
I am 41 year old mom. These surgeries seem reserved younger male athletes, however the doctor did suggest surgical repair should I want to continue any overhead sport that could put my life in danger. My main questions are regarding healing from this type of surgery (arthroscopic labral repair) at my age as well as regaining normal ROM and strength.
I see so many people who avoid surgery at all costs, but from what I understand, the labrum does not heal or heal correctly.
Does anyone who has gone through this at a later age have any feedback? Success from PT and no surgery and confidently climbing or success from surgery and no subsequent re-dislocations?
I am fully aware and prepared for the length of time it will take to recovery. I don't plan on trying to jump back into climbing before I am cleared by a doctor/PT.

Any thoughts appreciated!
Jennifer

Thank you Healyje for the link to the other thread!

Sherri, oh my goodness, I can't imagine what you went through. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have since had the surgery on April 20th.
My injury was not nearly as severe as yours. I had a bankart repair with 3 suture/anchors and some debrided cartilage that was about to break of. Nothing was done for the hill sachs as it should not articulate with the joint.
I have started gentle passive PT for R.O.M. I am super lucky to have great insurance and access to good care. I know it will be a long time before I climb again, but hopefully I can use that time to get as strong as possible to shield my joints. I feel like so much depends on each persons age and body type as well. One PT I went to who was actually a climber himself said that maybe someone with a stiffer body type would have ok success with just PT, but it had to be a 100% commitment. Given my joints are loose to start with (part of the reason I think I dislocated in the first place) I just felt it would be a sure thing to eventually dislocate again.
I cringed when I read your post. I am so sorry you had to go through that. I wish you well on your recovery. Please keep me posted as to how you are doing. If you can, get yourself a cheap recliner for after the surgery to sleep in. It made a big difference for me..
Best of luck to you!