Climbing dating website

Aerili- I can see what you're saying for a lot of guys. Myself included. Amd while it usually witks better fir me with beta girls, t I love meeting a girl who can hold her own with my domineering personality.

My real concern with dating a climber girl is that she will leave me for one of my friends who climb harder! Climbers are such rating sluts.

Edit: Wow, who checked my spelling, Ellanor?

Lot of guys can't handle smart, independent, and driven women. Along the same line of thinking, a lot of women won't put up with a guy whose sole purpose in life is to climb (for good reason imo).

It takes a lot of maturity or experience or both to truly know what you want out of a relationship. Many of the things that you might think you want in an intimate partner will end up driving you nuts in the long run.

After nearly 58 years of climbing, two very serious long-term climbing girlfriends, one even more serious long-term non-climbing wife, and a whole lot of observation in crags and on mountains, I'm here to tell you it doesn't matter.

Relationships prosper or wither because of who the people are, not what they do. Let's not forget that climbing can be pretty stressful too, and there are times when you've really had just about all you can stand from your partner, favorite though they may be. This does not work well when the partner is also an SO. I'm not necessarily speaking about big mountain epics either---I've heard plenty of bickering and sniping at the crags.

Another thing I've noticed is that folks who both climb when they met don't always keep it up over the long haul. One of the couple moves on to other things, at which point there had better be something besides climbing to hold them together.

Differing abilities can also be a source of stress. It can be miserable for the less able partner to be dragged up things by the more able one. For these reasons and more, quite a few married climbing couples I've met don't climb together all that much, finding it better to each go their own way at the climbing area. I guess they still have the advantage of both wanting to go climbing though.

Then there's the Pygmalion phenomenon: climber meets non-climber and molds them into a partner, or so they think. I don't think "molding" is a good long-term strategy, deep down people resent the fact that they aren't "good enough" as they are.

All in all, I can't say that among the people I've known both being climbers hasn't worked out any better than only one being a climber.

But I do get that from a dating point of view, starting with a climber is at the very least a considerable convenience. Just don't imagine it will necessarily play out any better than a non-climber date.

Momoface wrote: You know, there are so many 'how to get a GF/BF climber' it seems like we should really explore the space around why NOT to date a climber.

hear hear!!!

When I see these threads with boys wanting to get their gf climbing I think they want just that, a gf who climbs, not a climber gf.

Climbers are generally strong willed and stubborn. Get two of those on a cliff who feel they can say anything to each other, put them in a stressful situation.....well, we've all seen (or been part of) some epic couple fights at the crag.

mary j wrote:To the OP: learn to love yourself (or at least like yourself) and the right person who appreciates you will come along. Seems like a corny thing to say, but it's true. Most couples who stay together grow together.

How may I be having the getting of the lovings for myself if I care only for difficult, enjoyable flash, and have carings not for much else?

To get the girlfriend of the climbing rocks, may I leave a trail of luna bars from the crag to my tent, and then recite most enjoyable series of haiku of climbing on the climbing rocks once she arrive?

Or perhaps I should have removed my shirt, and be doing of the bench pressings of massive boulders while lying in a cold mountain stream and grunting profusely? When she arrive, I say, "Do you hear me counting? I do over 100." Then she falls in love with me, yes?

beccs wrote: hear hear!!! When I see these threads with boys wanting to get their gf climbing I think they want just that, a gf who climbs, not a climber gf. Climbers are generally strong willed and stubborn. Get two of those on a cliff who feel they can say anything to each other, put them in a stressful situation.....well, we've all seen (or been part of) some epic couple fights at the crag.

You be thinking they wanting a gluten free climber (gf)? Or they must do the training gluten free?

Aleks Zebastian wrote: You be thinking they wanting a gluten free climber (gf)? Or they must do the training gluten free?

I know I wouldn't want a glute free gf...I hear gluten free will eventually lead to glute free.

Whoa..MP isn't a dating site for climbers? That explains a lot.

I have occasionally seen sniping amongst life partners while climbing, but not as much as one would imagine. Still, it's kinda weird to be witnessing when it happens, especially if you're on a mulitpitch next door - hahah.

One thing I would suggest: Make SURE both parties continue to climb with other people and on a regular basis. I made the mistake of extended road-tripping/local cragging with "the perfect male partner"(and he wasn't even a b/f) and when he left the country, the idea of going back to posting threads looking for partners was more than I could deal with. I still haven't gotten back into regular climbing and it is well past time I should have gotten over being spoiled. It really sucks when your climbing partner is gone and you don't feel like making the effort to find others to climb with.

Ana Tine wrote: And, I just can't believe how long you have been climbing for.

It's a little worrisome, right? I mean, common sense is supposed to kick in after a while.

Jonathan Cunha wrote:Whoa..MP isn't a dating site for climbers? That explains a lot.

MP.com is a climbing guide AND a dating site.

It's also a great dessert topping and floor wax.

Stich wrote: MP.com is a climbing guide AND a dating site. It's also a great dessert topping and floor wax.

Id like to hire an AMGA dating climbing guide.... Or is that a climbing dating guide?

Stich wrote:It's also a great dessert topping and floor wax.

This almost made me throw up my lunch! Looks like MP can be a great expectorant as well.

rgold wrote: It's a little worrisome, right? I mean, common sense is supposed to kick in after a while.

It is damn impressive. I bought copies of Basic & Advanced rockcraft for its historical perspective and marvel at the the people who climbed before today's gear, but your climbing days came way before this book (and at the book price and format).

If I ponder for a moment, you've been climbing since before many of these MP-ers were born. Blows my mind the changes you have seen to climbing and everything else, e.g. computers, fashion, people... oops my mind is wandering now..

Stich wrote: MP.com is a climbing guide AND a dating site. It's also a great dessert topping and floor wax.

Not getting joke about the dessert topping and floor wax.

The route guide is priceless, but mostly the forums are a great way to waste time at work. And find a climbing partner licketly split, without having to loiter around a climbing area acting like a lost dog.

RGold has some amazing stories about climbing back in the day. He claims that both Julius Caesar and Jesus were both 5.12 climbers.

Ana Tine wrote: The route guide is priceless, but mostly the forums are a great way to waste time at work.

I feel like this should be the new tagline for MP.

Ana Tine wrote: Not getting joke about the dessert topping and floor wax.

It's an old Saturday Night Live skit you dang kids.



Jesus, that was a long time ago.

I don't think I have anything to add except to provide more female perspectives on the dating-a-climber thing. This has been my experience.

Scenario 1: Want to date my climbing partner and then find we literally cannot carry on a conversation that isn't about climbing. So, bullet dodged.

Scenario 2: Meet boy who doesn't climb but show him the ropes (groooan) at the gym. He gets way frighteningly enthusiastic and I dump him because I have no excuses to be away from him ever. There may have been some other things at play here like not being that into him.

Scenario 3: Meet another boy who doesn't climb but try to show it to him. He throws a fit when he fails his belay check and dumps me in the climbing gym. True story. BULLET DODGED. SERIOUSLY.

Scenario 4: Meet MAN who doesn't climb. Don't try to show him. Tell him in vague detail about my climbing trips and have his full support and live happily ever after. Welllll, until I move to Colorado to climb more.

Scenario 5: Currently dating a climber in Colorado and it's fun! We even manage conversations without mentioning climbing at all.

This is ALL to say, as everyone has said before, that results may vary. Hobbies aren't everything even though climbing feels really consuming a lot of the time.

I would love to find a climbing boyfriend. One of my climbing friends suggested I post a thread on here "looking for sexy boyfriend that crushes. In return I will cook and clean!" - his words exactly, lol. I've sort of tried to find one, but mostly found men that were really into moderates... as others have mentioned, it's not enough to find someone that climbs, we need to both be into the same types and level of climbing.

I wonder if all the people commenting on why you shouldn't date a climber realize with a little freedom of interpretation, all those reasons are why to not date anyone (climber or not)... For a million reasons most people one might date will not be "the one".

I am both fully myself, and fully the person I want to be when I'm climbing. For those reasons, I really would love to share my life with another climber.

Amanda Crawford wrote:Scenario 3: Meet another boy who doesn't climb but try to show it to him. He throws a fit when he fails his belay check and dumps me in the climbing gym. True story. BULLET DODGED. SERIOUSLY.

OMG, that is the funniest climbing boy dating disaster story I've ever read. Seriously, he flipped when he failed his belay test? SO MUCH PRESSURE! Imagine how much he would have flipped if you needed to "guide" him in the bedroom.

Mary Moves wrote:I've sort of tried to find one, but mostly found men that were really into moderates...

You mean, they aren't interested in breaking that 5.9 barrier? Ha ha ha. You do of course live in Alma, which is isolating you from any substantial pools of men to date, with the exception of Breck ski bums and trustifarians.