Climbing dating website

Aleks Zebastian wrote:Would you please be telling to me of how I can get the climbing girlfriend for the climbing rocks? It seems they are no being impressed only by my difficult enjoyable flash or the eating of the raw fishheads and many cheesesteak out of bucket all day at crag. It seems you must have "social skills" and "personality" and "confidence" and the havings of the "sense of humor?" Do they like you write them enjoyable haiku about climbing? I have lovings most for flash only, but do would like enjoyable, climbing girlfriend. After girlfriend last she leave me, pain stabs me in heart like Norwegian icicle very cold.

bump.

Shall I leave a trail of bright-colored karabiner leading back to my tent? and then be offering of the bleeding raw fishheads from bucket?

Ana Tine wrote: Don't forget about female insecurity. I didn't live in a climbing community, so I picked (well, he contacted me first and I accepted) a non-climber and made him into a climber. For our first date, I showed him how to tie a Figure-8 and TR belay. I equipped him with gear... I showed him the world of outdoor climbing. We fell in love at some point. Then realized my mistake. I selected TOO well. It slipped my mind that I do not climb very hard, and his body structure is made for climbing. Now I have climbing envy.

You know, there are so many 'how to get a GF/BF climber' it seems like we should really explore the space around why NOT to date a climber.

Jen Vaisman wrote: And thank you, too, Stich! You're both so kind and awesome!

Don't be so sure about that, Jen. Anyone who can wear half a watermelon on his head and keep a straight face has serious issues.



For anyone who's a Real Climber (tm) climbing is a passion and a lifestyle that defines them as a person. It's not a "hobby", as someone said, and non-climbers don't understand it.

Wanting to share one of the most important things in your life with someone special is completely natural and healthy.

We all know how we feel about our long-term climbing partners. The levels of trust, understanding, compassion, etc. far surpass what we have with friends from other parts of our lives. Now add to that the intimacy and closeness of a life-partner and you have a relationship that's incomparable.

Just MHO.

Aleks Zebastian wrote:Would you please be telling to me of how I can get the climbing girlfriend for the climbing rocks?

Not to take away from the OP, but take a look at this link for a flow chart regarding what to do when "there [is] a cute girl at the gym."

http://semi-rad.com/2014/01/chart-is-there-a-cute-girl-at-the-climbing-gym/

Momoface wrote:whatever non climbing GFs do.

Exactly... lol

Ahh, timeless question of dating a climber or not, with no clear answer it seems to me. I've got a great girlfriend, a mutual climber friend introduced us. But way back when (back when I was still thirty-something...) I tried that Fitness Singles site. What the hell, I figured -- they had pictures of cute chicks climbing, rappelling, running, stuff like that. Sweet. Only, how do you write a personal ad without sounding like a total douche? I figured maybe humor was the ticket. Here was my meager attempt:

Thirty-something climbing bum with no discernible qualities seeks non-annoying hottie with low standards and bad eyesight for a short-term, meaningless relationship. Not interested in just “friendship,” I have plenty of friends. But who knows, maybe love or *@#%?@!??. We can enjoy romantic weekends at my cabin (after I go climbing with my friends) swilling margaritas and reading Bukowski. Must be comfortable with yourself, have a strong sense of self-identity and be willing to change the things about you that I don’t like. Psychos need not apply. Nice car a plus.
P.S. I do yoga sometimes.

Zero response, crickets chirping in my inbox. Oh well, I thought it was funny.

Kelly Cordes wrote:Ahh, timeless question of dating a climber or not, with no clear answer it seems to me. I've got a great girlfriend, a mutual climber friend introduced us. But way back when (back when I was still thirty-something...) I tried that Fitness Singles site. What the hell, I figured -- they had pictures of cute chicks climbing, rappelling, running, stuff like that. Sweet. Only, how do you write a personal ad without sounding like a total douche? I figured maybe humor was the ticket. Here was my meager attempt: Thirty-something climbing bum with no discernible qualities seeks non-annoying hottie with low standards and bad eyesight for a short-term, meaningless relationship. Not interested in just “friendship,” I have plenty of friends. But who knows, maybe love or *@#%?@!??. We can enjoy romantic weekends at my cabin (after I go climbing with my friends) swilling margaritas and reading Bukowski. Must be comfortable with yourself, have a strong sense of self-identity and be willing to change the things about you that I don’t like. Psychos need not apply. Nice car a plus. P.S. I do yoga sometimes. Zero response, crickets chirping in my inbox. Oh well, I thought it was funny.

Jeez, Kelly, makes me want to change teams.

PLEASE tell me that's still a live profile we can have some fun with.

The watermelon photo is from when I was married. What could possibly have gone wrong?

(She took the picture.)

Back when Craigslist was big for dating, my very good friend, a staunch feminist just out of a relationship placed an ad for just plain NSA sex. She ended up marrying like the second guy she met and now has 2 kids (she hated the thought of having kids before).

Moral of the story: just go out and climb without the dating site pressure, you'll eventually find somebody (you may have to kiss a few frogs thou).

Kelly Cordes wrote:Ahh, timeless question of dating a climber or not, with no clear answer it seems to me. I've got a great girlfriend, a mutual climber friend introduced us. But way back when (back when I was still thirty-something...) I tried that Fitness Singles site. What the hell, I figured -- they had pictures of cute chicks climbing, rappelling, running, stuff like that. Sweet. Only, how do you write a personal ad without sounding like a total douche? I figured maybe humor was the ticket. Here was my meager attempt: Thirty-something climbing bum with no discernible qualities seeks non-annoying hottie with low standards and bad eyesight for a short-term, meaningless relationship. Not interested in just “friendship,” I have plenty of friends. But who knows, maybe love or *@#%?@!??. We can enjoy romantic weekends at my cabin (after I go climbing with my friends) swilling margaritas and reading Bukowski. Must be comfortable with yourself, have a strong sense of self-identity and be willing to change the things about you that I don’t like. Psychos need not apply. Nice car a plus. P.S. I do yoga sometimes. Zero response, crickets chirping in my inbox. Oh well, I thought it was funny.

Damn! Where was I when this was posted??
I mean, who could resist the raw candor and unyielding charm!?

Wait, KC! I totally just hit on you!!

They never begin as climbers, but I swear, they all turn into them. I would never see my wife if she didn't crush. So, could it work? Yes, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea. Train em up boys, that is all.

Personally I'd never want to date anyone who'd consider me as a prospective mate. I have higher standards than that.

I don't have any statistics to back this up but I bet that far more relationships have been broken up by climbing then have been created by climbing. Non-climbers just don't get it. "Why would he/she rather be climbing than to be with me for the weekend?" asks the non-climber.

Hey, uh, Jen... I'm like, single, and all. Uh, hey, wanna meet up?

i have decent luck meeting women on top of moutains when i go hiking alone. But I suck at meeting em anywhere else for what ever reason.

John Byrnes wrote: Don't be so sure about that, Jen. Anyone who can wear half a watermelon on his head and keep a straight face has serious issues. For anyone who's a Real Climber (tm) climbing is a passion and a lifestyle that defines them as a person. It's not a "hobby", as someone said, and non-climbers don't understand it. Wanting to share one of the most important things in your life with someone special is completely natural and healthy. We all know how we feel about our long-term climbing partners. The levels of trust, understanding, compassion, etc. far surpass what we have with friends from other parts of our lives. Now add to that the intimacy and closeness of a life-partner and you have a relationship that's incomparable. Just MHO.

Well said!!

A lot of climber guys are awkward and have a hard time articulating more than a few things, climbing being one of them. So for 1, climbing gives us that jumping off point, but also, I think that sharing/listening to people talk about their passion is a big factor in falling in love or whatever and that's what climbing is.

After a decade, I think dating climber men is not all it is cracked up to be. There are exceptions, but there are some major drawbacks in so many cases.

I think the least-experienced female climbers have the easiest time dating other climbers. Many dudes start to have problems with the girlfriend who is competent enough to have her own ideas, ways of doing things, plans, and desires to lead crux pitches. Some of them have a simultaneous love/hate with a gf who can actually climb and doesn't require lots of instruction. I have a sample size of greater than 1 to bear this out.