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etiquette (opposite sex)

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chris mcclendon · · Gardendale, Alabama · Joined Feb 2008 · Points: 40

sooo....is there a way to approach a girl at a crag???
The questionable approaches that can go good....or BAD!!!!

1. spray beta- most of the time, a serious climber doesnt want any. (.) period. if asked then help...some will appreciate it some will be offended. high chance that they have already been bothered by every other man that has passed them.

2. offer a spot- another kind gesture that could offend a female climber. try to act sincere. she will either assume u truly dont want to c her miss the pad or...U R TRYING TO COP A FEEL. odds are, shes already turned down a couple of spots because of the creepy feelin that those power spotters give her.

3. gawk and whisper- more often than the first two questionable attemts to meet a new female climber, guys tend to gawk while they should be spotting or belaying someone in their crew. this usually leads to embarrassment when she notices ur friend deck as u make brief eye contact. boulders usually reflect sound soo the whisperin doesnt work too well either unless u want the object of ur attention hearing u.

This leaves us with a very important question. What is the correct way to approach a girl...or guy(if ur a girl)at a climbing area.

.....waiver..... no comments about gym stalkers. best bet is to not speak to people while training at the gym. if ur a gym stalker u should put a #10 hex in ur mouth and then wrap tape around ur head. then go to the gym and climb.

Tim Stich · · Colorado Springs, Colorado · Joined Jan 2001 · Points: 1,520

Peter Saul did a painting titled "Girl Trouble." If you look it up and study it, you should have your answer.

Daryl Allan · · Sierra Vista, AZ · Joined Sep 2006 · Points: 1,040

Good grief, Peter Saul. Not a better example of better living through chemistry to be found.

MattWallace · · Center Harbor, NH · Joined Nov 2008 · Points: 8,752

if you need an entry into a conversation ask something about the route your "target" is working on, you could already know the answer it is just a way to segway into more conversation, now some people may say that lying is a bad way to start a convorsation with someone you dont know but spraying beta at the top of you lungs is much worse, and down the road it actually is funny when you admit to the person that you knew the answer the entire time and just wanted to talk to them...

Sam Lightner, Jr. · · Lander, WY · Joined Apr 2006 · Points: 2,732

I''ve found most girls find it pretty cool if you beat up their boyfriend just as he begins to untie his knot. Also, if your drunk try to throw up in their pack. They love that.

Phil Lauffen · · Innsbruck, AT · Joined Jun 2008 · Points: 3,098

True life story:

My friend knew about this good girl climber through a friend. So, whats the obvious thing to do? FACEBOOK STALK! This is much easier than a real-life encounter. Just figure out her name as stealthily as you can, (go through purse perhaps?), find her on facebook, and ATTACK. Bombard her with messages and pokes until she gives in and agrees to acknowledge your existence at the gym. Fool proof.

p.s. definition of facebook for you older folks
urbandictionary.com/define.…

definition of facebook poke--3rd definition down
urbandictionary.com/define.…

Tim Stich · · Colorado Springs, Colorado · Joined Jan 2001 · Points: 1,520

Be sure to suggest that they warm up on a 5.8 first. They love being told what to warm up on.

saxfiend · · Decatur, GA · Joined Nov 2006 · Points: 4,221
chris mcclendon wrote:sooo....is there a way to approach a girl at a crag???
1. I'd bet that most people (male or female) are out on the rock to climb, not hook up. Of course I mainly trad climb, so maybe there's some secret mating rituals at the sport crags or boulders that I'm missing. On second thought -- nah, not really, I don't miss them at all.
2. Approach her like you would in a bar, or in the park, or anywhere else. Why would you behave differently at the crag? On second thought, don't answer that.
3. Ben's right -- agonizing over how to approach women at the crag is not a Southern Phenomenon. At least not for Ben.

JL
chris mcclendon · · Gardendale, Alabama · Joined Feb 2008 · Points: 40

i swear i posted this as a joke. i just find it freakin hilarious that every attractive girl that climbs n one of the easy access crags gets stalked while trying to climb. its not funny but it is. i was just curious as to what the replies to such a topic would be. and........sooo far my guess was dead on haha

Hank Caylor · · Livin' in the Junk! · Joined Dec 2003 · Points: 643

I tried spotting a girl that was with a pile of her girlfriends at the gym. When she fell I ended up missing her waist and getting her boobs. They were very unimpressed so I slurked away and am damn happy to be married now. The dating scene can suck.

Phil Lauffen · · Innsbruck, AT · Joined Jun 2008 · Points: 3,098

oops. I think its interesting that those with the most insight(girls) are lurking.

John Maguire · · Boulder, CO · Joined Nov 2008 · Points: 195
Will Anglin wrote:Why go to them? Make them come to you! First make sure you are totally shaven, this is key. Make sure you have some ink too, extra points for tribal arm band. Finish up your upper body with a thick slathering of baby oil so the women will notice you as you glisten up your 'proj'. But don't just stop after your visual onslaught! Throw in some "crux scream" mating calls as you do every move to make sure everyone knows how hard you are trying. Then as you untie your knot throw out an, "I onsighted that last time, no big deal" Then brace yourself as hoards of women trample each other to get to you.... Works every time :)
+1
Rhett Burroughs · · Salt Lake City, UT · Joined Apr 2006 · Points: 230

Will,
Thats priceless... battle crys get the women creamin'

bbrock · · Al · Joined Dec 2006 · Points: 955
Paul Barnes wrote:Just roll up the road to Sandrock in yer Pick 'em Up Truck...pull over where ya see some females camped...spit out the window and holler "git in the truck B**ch!" P.S. Also works on drunk jailbait redneck girls. I love Alabama....;)
I was at Sandrock this weekend and I must say this approach actually works. Also at Sandrock if you pull out your unit and windmill it a few times this works as well. After properly banging said chick in the parking lot, be sure to throw your used condom on the ground and then spray paint yalls name on a rock.

If I'm at classier crags like T-Wall I usually spot a chick, roll up next to her with my shirt off, jump on something hard and scary, make moaning, grunting climbing/sex noises, come down and immediatley ask for sex. Do not wait. Your sexual potency is highest immediatley after you send.
Michael Ybarra · · on the road · Joined Jan 2008 · Points: 85

I've heard from women that they like men who appear to have graduated from high school, rather than lazy asses who sound as if they learned English by texting.

TresSki Roach · · Santa Fe, NM · Joined May 2002 · Points: 605
Tim Stich wrote:Be sure to suggest that they warm up on a 5.8 first. They love being told what to warm up on.
True. I witnessed it. Daggers flew from this girl's eyes when Tim suggested she warm up on a 5.8. I have a feeling though that if he would have suggested she warmed up on a 10b, she would have taken issue with that too.

So my advice. . .just smile. A nice friendly smile from a cute climber guy can go a long way.
Matt McMurray · · Castle Rock, CO · Joined Apr 2006 · Points: 1,580

My thought is that if you are looking for a mate based solely on them being a climber you are eliminating a ridiculous number of possibilities. My wife use to climb all the time, and now she does other stuff (runs, yoga, etc.). Broaden your search beyond the hot bods that are on the rock (or in the gym)...

That said, you need to be able to have engaging conversations about life outside of climbing, as most of your time spent with your mate won't be climbing.

colin tucker · · Monticello, UT · Joined May 2007 · Points: 35

Just be yourself and I am sure they will approach you. Geez.

Jay F. Weekly · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Jun 2007 · Points: 10

Go to reelrocktour.com/ , click on the "contest" link, and watch "The Rediness is All" to gain critical insight into the colorful dating scene at the Red River Gorge...

Charlie S · · NV · Joined Aug 2007 · Points: 2,391

I don't seem to have this problem.

Mostly because women my age aren't at the crag or gym. For me the question is "Where are they climbing?"

J C Wilks · · Loveland, CO · Joined Aug 2006 · Points: 310

Daium, I'm movin' down south where people have a sense o' humor!

I've found that starting an argument works wonders. Doesn't matter what it's about, just don't ever admit you're wrong, don't apologize or back down and show 'em who's boss. Turn as red as you can and you'll get their undivided attention.

Guideline #1: Don't be a jerk.

Southern States
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